Some people just like to live in the past. They judge you today for things that happened MANY years ago. These types of people are incapable of growth. Growth in their own lives and recognizing growth in others. The level of immaturity coming from these middle age adults is incredible. I'm embarrassed for you to hear you say, "yes I'm mean to you" this phrase coming from a 40 yr old. Seriously, when are you going to grow up??