"You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage - pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically - to say 'no' to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger 'yes' burning inside" - Stephen Covey
The ego says "I shouldn't have to suffer" and that thought makes you suffer so much. It is a distortion of the Truth, which is always paradoxical. The Truth is that you have to say yes to suffering before you can transcend it .